List of Every Post by Title 12019 The ‘List’ – Goal creation in couples counseling “Control Yourself!” Who is being asked to control who?2018 Teenagers and Anxiety The Tide What is the Purpose of Government? Invalidating Communication | What not to do when offering emotional support Helping Diabetes Management in Teens | Identifying the barriers to achieving desired A1C Does laziness cause depression or does depression cause laziness?2017 Choice and quality of life | What choice, if removed, would most positively impact your well being? Solutions and Causes of Anxiety Concrete vs Abstract responsibility for teenagers Intentionality and Happiness | How life choices are impacted by purpose Double Binded Communication Addiction, Self-determination, Flow, Mindfulness, Culture, Emotional Intelligence, and Human Bonding The Relativity of Oppression The Relationship between Anxiety and Attention Do you Like your self when you are with this person? Bottom Up and Top Down interventions to support regulation Fear, Competence, Values and Anger in Parenting Rambunctious Children When Attachment Theory and Existentialism Compete Parenting Paradigm | a level system to conceptualize parenting strategies Happy Relationship – loving another as yourself – loving we to love me The Depression Bubble Early Childhood Questions to Promote Bonding Choice is Oppression Accepting, condoning, and boundaries A metaphor for the relationship between control and suffering Playful Communicative Connection Enactment Why Democracy Failed2016 What is the purpose of Marriage?2015 interregulation – a simpler explanation | regulating communication Parenting and Rowboats It is only fear Breathe before you help others to breathe Attunement Exercise2014 Hope in a space of Hopelessness Wind Blown Hair (Music Post)2013 I'm not alone (Music) Shed Your Old Skin (Music) Come to Carry us Home (music) Parenting Teens with Diabetes Stopping unwanted thoughts and daydreams Feedback loop in a Couples interaction Boy of the Fall (music post) What is a mentally healthy person? Characteristics of an emotionally, spiritually, and socially intelligent person. Is Depression the Result of Self-Centeredness? Feelings are important in growing consciousness – Existential and Mindfulness Based Emotional Reflection Therapy Reflection and Psychotherapy Systemics in Psychotherapy Democratically Denying Education – the internal flaw of democracy Integrity and Your Social Potential Scientism2012 The thoughts, emotions, and behaviors triangle Respecting Elders in a Society of Rugged Individualism Freedom from and Freedom to Hope affects outcome… why?2011 The difference between good intentions and good actions = understanding, humility, and empathy Face your Suffering on your way towards Freedom and Balance | The Effects of Resistance Adlerian psychotherapy – an overview What is a systemic approach in psychotherapy? Family systems theory intervention What is the Difference between a Psychologist, a Psychotherapist, a Psychiatrist, a Social Worker, a LPC, a LMFT, a LSCW, a PsyD, a PHD……… Dialectics – open your mind and balance will occur naturally What are 'triggers' – automatic responces Overcoming feelings of Shame | Shame avoided will stay quite the same… Cognitive Behavioral Therapy simplified Relationship Help | “My partner says that I don’t listen” | how to meet the emotional needs of your partner The Sex vs. Emotional Intimacy debate | how to make both partners feel loved in a relationship Authenticity and Stress | you are healthiest when you are your real self | “don’t plant corn in the sand” Relationship feel stuck? Try pretending that you don’t know everything about your partner Mind won’t stop ruminating? Take your shoes off to encourage a state of mindfulness Drink too much? Try being yourself in your life… choose to stop inhibiting yourself Overcoming anger | are you angry with another or are you truly angry with your self? Asking Clients Permission | offering choices to clients in counseling | tips for psychotherapists Asking for feedback in therapy | collaborative psychotherapy | empowering the client | tips for psychotherapists 30 Common questions psychotherapist should be able to answer succinctly | tips for therapists | how to market your private psychotherapy practice Teenage Drinking | Solving Youth Substance Abuse | restraint theory, individuation, overpopulation, cultural priorities and freewill Immediacy | tips for therapists | How to use immediacy | experiential techniques Weight loss – what does that food mean to you? Insight, reflection, and replacement in achieving weight loss goals. Parenting fundamentals – The basics for co-parenting your children Why should I focus on my Breathing? – Worry reduction. Realistic Weight Loss Work Sheet – Keep what you love, substitute and add where you can, and remove the unimportant Euphoria and gratitude… a runners high at 9,000 feet Forming Secure Attachments – Handout for parents and caregivers Components of the Obesity and Nutrition Problem in our Shared Country Why some fail to lose Weight – Restraint theory Synchronicity – The rattlesnake’s message of change and balance Jung’s Theory of Synchronicity, Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious Placebo effect – an underrated healer Addiction Intervention Debate | Increasing Freedom by fostering an increase in consciousness, reflective ability, and emotional availability | Is there always a choice or are certain stimuli too controlling? Support group for teens with type 1 diabetes An example of ‘Auras’ and ‘Energy’ for our left brained friends Compassionately Assertive – Maintaining Boundaries without Aggression – using empathy and clarity to get your needs met Parenting questions for couples – Questionnaire to increase synergy, collaboration, empathy, and overall understanding for couples who are co-parenting a child. ‘not -talked-about’ themes in Human Sexuality – normalizing Play therapy explained | How to use play therapy | Attuning to your child | how and why it works Balanced Boundaries – a metaphor about giving and taking for the health of yourself and others Alcohol use and marital satisfaction What is empathy? How do I know if I am experiencing empathy? Existentialism in Psychotherapy pathologizing, labels, dichotomies, existentialism and acceptance Anger and Arguments – Are you defending the topic or your self? Existential Recovery – Emotional freedom inherent in the choice of meaning Empathy building exercise – learning to be empathetic – increasing emotional understanding Vengeance and the Ego The Evolution of CBT = Mindfulness – moving from changing projections to eliminating projections Past goals driving current choices? – Overcoming your inner teenager Who are you? How to stop conforming to expectations and to start presenting the self you would like to present Problems sleeping? 10 Tips to help you sleep Overcoming addiction to substance – find a replacement behavior that offers a comparable result – hope involves you being both reasonable and honest with yourself Setting realistic expectations and living within those realistic expectations… Premarital counseling questions | life long commitment questionnaire | questions for a long & happy relationship Strength Based Therapy – what it means Understanding how your Values impact the choices that you make Narrative therapy summary Creating Motivation for the Change Process – Why creating a mental image of the ‘new you’ works The Oppression of Creativity and Progression – How regulation, oversight, managed care, and “Big Brother” oppress growth Logical Reason to Change – The Inevitability of Anxiety Whether You Change or Not What does LPC, LSW, LMFT, PsyD, PHD, LCSW, MD, MS, MA stand for? Why might we be misinformed about human sexuality? What is Transference in psychotherapy – placing emotional reactions related to another onto the therapist What is Love? How do I know if I am in love or have experienced love? Love is selflessness and felt security… love is also a physical and emotional feeling 7 Health and Weight loss tips from a psychotherapist who is married to a nutritionist Why are people Defensive? Reducing the anxiety of change Some stress is best left Changing unhelpful beliefs – "If ____________ then I will be happy" What is the meaning of Life? – To live… consciousness of consciousness in existence Psychotherapy Forum – Start a new Topic and Join the Discussion in the Wellness Forum Mindfulness Interventions for Both the Therapist and the Client to Increase Therapeutic Effectiveness When Treating Trauma Human Sexuality and Stress Management Reducing suffering – How trying to avoid or control suffering often increases suffering – When to act and when to accept without action Guided Visualization for Emotional Resiliency – comforting a younger you Structural family therapy summary Tips for getting your Attachment needs met in your adult relationships Argumentative? Dichotomies in conversations lead to arguments not solutions Does being drunk make you uninhibited? | alcohol, authenticity and primal instinct Authentic Self – Are you the work you or the outside of work you? Do Therapists get Therapy? | Controlling bias and counter-transference in counseling How do you find the right therapist for you? Allowing and Believing Courage to use your Strength to attend to your Fear ‘The Good Enough Sex Model’ (Metz and MaCarthy 2007) – a review and summary Meditative Breath – focusing on the expansion and contraction of your chest and stomach. The Science behind Emotional Intelligence: literature review Narrative therapy: the externalization of perception Michele Weiner Davis’s ‘Divorce Busting’ – a response Solution Focused Therapy simplified Empathy – nature and nurture A subtle difference between Narrative and Cognitive psychotherapy 'narrative means to theraputic ends' – book summary and review Rogerian (or Person Centered) therapy summary Combined Wellness intervention Gestalts vs. Math and deductive reasoning Is it ‘cheesy’ to be positive? Fear of Snakes is from the fear of snakes Love with the mind, the body and the spirit Ignorance is Bliss? Anti-dogmatic types have a dogma themselves A subjective interpretation of Jesus’ message about the forgiveness of sin… Postmodernism – making an ‘out there’ philosophy useful Chaos is the result of resisting what is Selfishness is also Selfless2010 Motivation v.s. Dedication … Can dedication be created? Love is something we experience with our emotions Labels, identification, and judgments from an existential view Forgiveness is the Heart of Justice Fear Forgiveness Chaos, structure, rigidity, compassion and acceptance Journaling for health, for context, for hope, for expression and for awareness Gestalt Psychotherapy – an overview Spend your energy on that which you can truly influence the 7 things you need to create meaningful change – precursors of change Attachment – why we say and emote one way when we truly feel and think a different way The Talking Cure for Trauma – holding freedom – you are the lotus ‘Empirically based practice’ has been proven irrelevant to therapy outcomes – empirically Stating your internal feelings – acknowledge for acceptance – resistance is suffering Past blame or “whose fault it is” and on to solutions Externalization – you are with the problem… you are separate from the problem Motivation to Exercise – why it is hard and how to make it easier Harmful Interaction Patterns – which do you do and what can help? Mindfulness Exercise – notice your senses without judgment =54321 present Can you be too close? – Enmeshment and automatic emotions transfer Ineffective Solution Strategies – without a simplified problem, a solution is unlikely Trauma – What happens to a person who has experienced trauma and why. Wellness with euphoria… sometimes what you want…you may already have Mindfulness – Why it is helpful and what 'being in the present moment' means Existentialism – meaning, meaninglessness and your life Timeouts for adults – conflict resolution and avoidance strategies Genograms – reducing blame and finding solutions in your family tree Mantras while you exercise – increase your awareness of your present surroundings Why Feeling Questions? – Emotional Expression Enhances Bonding Talking with Teens– Try using authentic open-minded empathetic curiosity. Relationship Sexually Stuck? – A look at your unwritten rules of engagement. My Dog – the personal trainer The interdependence of dependence and independence Argumentative? – substitute the word "but" for "and"
