Thoughts from a Therapist

Helpful tips on How to Expand your Personal and Relational Wellness

Category: Philosophy & Theory

  • The Building Blocks of Emotional and Social Intelligence

    The Building Blocks of Emotional and Social Intelligence

    The blog explores emotional and social intelligence, emphasizing their role in enhancing mental, emotional, and spiritual wellness. It highlights essential capacities like empathy, self-awareness, and compassion, which contribute to navigating life’s complexities. These skills are not fixed but can be developed, fostering connection, clarity, and presence in everyday experiences and psychotherapy.

  • The Dialectic of Courage

    The Dialectic of Courage

    Courage exists on a spectrum and requires balance, as both underdevelopment and overdevelopment can lead to issues. It is a crucial emotional capacity that influences actions in response to fear. The challenge lies in deciding when to act courageously or heed fear, depending on individual responsibilities and the potential consequences of those choices.

  • Analysis vs Observation

    Analysis vs Observation

    This post contrasts sensation analysis with simple observation. Analysis categorizes and deducts, often distancing us from direct experience. In contrast, observation focuses on present sensations without interpretation, enhancing immediacy and allowing feelings to exist without justification. This shift can reduce reactivity and clarify experiential understanding beyond academic reasoning.

  • Interventions in Relational Counseling

    Interventions in Relational Counseling

    Relational therapy utilizes various acronym-based models to guide therapists. It emphasizes the importance of integrating different theoretical approaches for effective interventions, highlighting key intervention styles, including behavioral, pragmatic, structural, and more. These styles collectively support system needs and adaptability, allowing therapists to fluidly adapt techniques based on clients’ evolving dynamics.

  • Anxiety as a Signal of Misalignment

    Anxiety as a Signal of Misalignment

    Existential anxiety signals misalignment between our lives and core values. Rather than aiming to eliminate it, we should interpret anxiety as a message indicating areas where change is needed. By acknowledging it, we can address disconnection and seek environments that align with our true selves, allowing for fulfillment and integrity.

  • “Control Yourself!”  Who is being asked to control who?

    “Control Yourself!” Who is being asked to control who?

    The post discusses the complex relationship between community, cultural expectations, and personal control over emotions and behavior. It highlights how control is often an illusion, as individuals struggle to manage their responses to external stimuli. It also explores spiritual insights on identity and the paradox of trying to control suffering, advocating for acceptance instead.

  • What is the Purpose of Government?

    What is the Purpose of Government?

    In this post, we will talk about the purpose which is driving the Government’s operating system.Many of us are ready for significant change – the desire for a more useful system of government is something that people from all political parties are yearning for… Our government is currently dividing us… making us have awkward to emotionally intolerable…

  • Choice and quality of life | What choice, if removed, would most positively impact your well being?

    Choice and quality of life | What choice, if removed, would most positively impact your well being?

    The United States encompasses various sub-cultures influenced by a dominant meta-culture emphasizing freedom and choice. This dual nature of choice can lead to both empowerment and oppression. Reflecting on which choices could be beneficially removed may enhance well-being, drawing insights from cultures that prioritize routine and communal practices.

  • Concrete vs Abstract responsibility for teenagers

    Many Teenagers are struggling to complete the tasks that they are responsible for… often times their achievement is interrupted due to the fact that they view the tasks as meaningless or irrelevant to their life. The “meaningless and irrelevant” assertion is often infuriating to parents and to the school system… We can have a very difficult…

  • The Relativity of Oppression

    Oppression exists, and much like other abstractions, oppression is often cognitively enmeshed with content or with something more concrete. There is often a more tangible entity that gets labeled as ‘oppressive’ or as the ‘oppressor’… through time we often allow for more tangible entities (such as a person, lifestyle, belief system etc) to be labeled…

  • When Attachment Theory and Existentialism Compete

    In this post I will be investigating the relationships between one’s core sense of purpose in life (existentialism) and contrasting that with the most basic needs associated with human bonding (attachment theory). The question that I am playing around with is: “Are there some people who have a life purpose which is incongruent with maintaining…

  • Choice is Oppression

    Wow that is a provocative way to start! of course Choice is also liberation and a billion of other things, but in the post I want to shine some light on how individualism has created a blind infatuation with choice – and how ‘choice’ is actually the very source of our oppression. perhaps the single…

  • Democratically Denying Education – the internal flaw of democracy

    Democracy needs education to function properly; without an informed electorate it would be unclear as to what any given person’s vote was based on… this turns voting into a game of chance where we the people are choosing one person or policy based on either no information, false information, or fallacious information. Yet the freedoms…

  • Integrity and Your Social Potential

    Perhaps it is at times better to measure your integrity on the degree to which you are asserting your potential to best positively influence the community and to manifest your purpose as opposed to measuring your integrity by the degree to which you conform to an overgeneralized social value, an overgeneralized social perception, or a…

  • Scientism

    Scientism is essentially the result of dogmatism for the scientific method, which leads to gross overgeneralization about the importance or ability of the scientific method. Most speakers on the subject relay their concern of the impact that scientism has had on the field of human psychology and spirituality.

  • Respecting Elders in a Society of Rugged Individualism

    My intention is to stir up a conversation as to a possible answer to why there seems to be a decreasing degree of ‘respecting your elders’ in the United Stated and other individual focused cultures (as opposed to collectivist cultures).

  • Freedom from and Freedom to

    Freedom is the very thing which inhibits freedom

  • The difference between good intentions and good actions = understanding, humility, and empathy

    There are many saying about how many “evil actions” have been the result of good intentions. So how are we to know if our actions are good? Are there actions which are indisputably wrong and indisputably right? Instead of going into a heady philosophical investigation as to why good and bad are infinitely one, inseparable,…

  • Face your Suffering on your way towards Freedom and Balance | The Effects of Resistance

    There is a widely held belief (especially by males) that it is a person’s duty in life to “just get over it” … which in my experience entails using a great deal of energy to deny and repress what is.

  • Adlerian psychotherapy – an overview

    In this post I will be giving an overview of Adlerian psychotherapy, which was one of the first theories in the field.