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Concrete vs Abstract responsibility for teenagers

November 29, 2017

Many teenagers struggle with responsibility due to the shift from concrete to abstract tasks, leading to feelings of irrelevance. This disconnect affects their self-esteem and motivation. Emphasizing concrete responsibilities and minimizing shame in abstract tasks may enhance their ability to engage and develop a sense of accountability, fostering emotional growth and future success.
Intentionality and Happiness | How life choices are impacted by purpose

November 28, 2017

This post emphasizes the relationship between intentionality and happiness, urging self-reflection. It identifies three approaches: balance, where both elements support each other; favoring intentionality, which may diminish joy; and prioritizing happiness, risking predictability and fulfillment. Ultimately, it encourages personal choice to find one’s preferred path toward fulfillment.
Double Binded Communication

October 30, 2017

Often we send ‘mixed messages’ to people. It can be a source of dis-ease in a relationship when a partner or loved one is giving you two opposing messages at the same time. This creates a double-bind as there is not an effective way to respond correctly to the communication. Most commonly the opposing messages are…
Addiction, Self-determination, Flow, Mindfulness, Culture, Emotional Intelligence, and Human Bonding

September 29, 2017

Addiction, Self-determination, Flow, Mindfulness, Culture, Emotional Intelligence, and Human Bonding What are the components of addiction? why is addiction less desirable? and what aptitudes help us to avoid addiction? “Let’s Turn the conversation towards Efficiency and Away from Morals” The Psychobiological and Relational causes of undesired, addictive, and compulsory behavior: Flow (peak experience) – Humans are…
The Relativity of Oppression

June 28, 2017

Oppression exists, and much like other abstractions, oppression is often cognitively enmeshed with content or with something more concrete. There is often a more tangible entity that gets labeled as ‘oppressive’ or as the ‘oppressor’… through time we often allow for more tangible entities (such as a person, lifestyle, belief system etc) to be labeled…
The Relationship between Anxiety and Attention

June 7, 2017

Attention is a learn-able skill There are many famous quotes and affirmations spoken through the years that point to the humbling truth that most suffering never actually happened … of course this is only partially true as we can all speak to the suffering involved in having a high level of anxiety. it isn’t that…
Do you Like your self when you are with this person?

June 7, 2017

I had a client share an age old piece of wisdom with me a couple months ago – he said that he often asks himself the following question when evaluating his relationships: “Do I Like myself when I am with this person?” “do I like who I am when I am with this person?” this…
Bottom Up and Top Down interventions to support regulation

June 1, 2017

In this post we will be exploring what people mean by ‘bottom up” and “top down” interventions and how you can use this information is relevant to regulation when we are emotionally overwhelmed. In the field of psychotherapy/psychology there is a strange debate right now about whether bottom up models or top down models are…